According to Elle magazine columnist, E.J. Dickson, a Mom Bod is “essentially code for a frumpy, asexual woman who has, to borrow a charming colloquialism that is almost exclusively applied to women, […] let herself go.“
When all of the excitement & celebration after labor subsides, a lot of us mamas are usually wondering – “Okay, when is my pre-pregnancy body coming back?” Trust me, I’ve been there (x4).
So, what happens when our body doesn’t automatically “snapback” to pre-pregancy size?
The praise towards women who bounce back to our size before getting pregnant is kinda obnoxious. It makes a lot of women feel bad about themselves because the transformation isn’t as fast for them. There’s this idea that because our bodies aren’t picture perfect, that means we’ve “let ourselves go.”
But you just made a whole human, Mama!
The emphasis should be snapping back to our best selves – mentally, physically, emotionally. Motherhood is beautiful. and beauty is about being comfortable in your own skin. It’s about knowing and accepting who you are & that includes your new MomBod.
Don’t let society tell you anything different.
If no one has told you today – You got this mama. You’re amazing. And your butt looks good.
Disclosure: This post is sponsored by Flintstones™ Vitamins but the content and opinions expressed here are my own. Read my full disclosure here.
Mornings like this are rare now that school is back in session. It’s usually busy, beautiful, and chaotic. But we always remember to spend time with each other over breakfast, take our vitamins & share a giggle or two.
Milan is a whole mood. And I’m always encouraging her to be the best version of herself, but sometimes it’s her who encourages me!
Lately, we’ve been practicing family yoga. Milan loves it, so I’m encouraging her healthy habits. Even if I’m not so good at it. I remember wanting to learn how to skate as a kid. So, when my mom bought my first pair of skates I practiced outside every day. I fell twice as much but my mom made sure I never gave up because I wanted to be good at it.
As a mom, myself, it’s super important for me to make sure my kiddos grow up strong and confident – whether that’s helping them master a new skill, practicing something that interests them, or creating healthy habits.
Because Growing Up Takes Strength.
That’s why I give her new Flintstones™ SuperBeans Multivitamin – it tastes delicious and it’s a fun way to give our children added nutritional support. As we get back to normal, supporting your kid’s immunity is crucial. Flintstones SuperBeans supports immune health with vitamins A, C, D, E & Zinc.
If someone would have told me that I’d be the mother of two beautiful teenagers back in the day, I wouldn’t believe them. I swore that I wasn’t going to be a mom when I was a kid. I didn’t see myself as a mother. But here I am, four kids later, loving this journey called motherhood.
It hasn’t always been easy raising teenaged girls, though. The unrealistic expectations and pressures they feel are more than I could have imagined at their ages. Social media plays such a big role in their lives when it comes to what they should look like, what they should wear, and what dances they should know how to do, etc. It’s sometimes hard for me to give advice on things that I may or may not relate to. But as their mother, I’ve had to make it my commitment to encourage them to love themselves despite it all.
I recently read Virgie Tovar’s, The Self-Love Revolution: Radical Body Positivity for Girls of Color with my daughters. Honestly, this book couldn’t have came into our lives at a more perfect time. It felt like my daughters had an extra Auntie speaking to them through this book. Tovar offers an unapologetic guide to help you question popular culture and cultivate radical body positivity. I loved the journal prompts because I think they can help girls of color show up as their best selves. With the extra free time we’ve had at home due to this pandemic, I’ve been using those journal prompts in the book to start thought-provoking discussions with my girls. Tovar does a great job of giving practical advice and tools for parents, like myself, to help encourage self-love.
“Self-love is about recognizing and accepting that you are precious and valuable – unconditionally – and creating a life that honors that truth.”
As a teenager, I struggled with self-love myself. According to the idea of “sexy” in our culture – my butt wasn’t big enough, my skin wasn’t light enough, my hair wasn’t long enough, etc. Don’t get me wrong – I considered myself a confident person, but as Tovar says, “you deserve more than that.”
I lacked self-love.
Now I’m raising two teenagers with totally different outlooks on life but similar struggles. My 14-year-old dislikes that she is tall and slim, while my 16-year-old dislikes that she is short and wants to be slimmer. Tovar’s book helped us understand the ways that negative body image manifests in people of color. It’s time to change that.
I shared The Self-Love Revolution with my daughters because it is a powerful reminder for them to reflect on their perception and definition of self-love as they transition to adulthood. At this point in their life, I felt that a guide like this is necessary to build long-lasting body positivity.
I want them to always know that it’s okay to be exactly who you are. Because that is who you’re meant to be.
I encourage you to shareThe Self-Love Revolution with the young women in your life too, and help raise a powerful generation of confident young women.
How do you plan on encouraging self-love to your daughter as she grows?
Every single day is a balancing act for you; maintaining a busy household, looking after your kids, growing a business and taking care of your health are all major items on your agenda. You can’t afford to push any of these things to the side, so you need to learn to keep everything ticking along seamlessly. Everyone knows that raising children is time consuming enough, let alone working on the other areas of your life. Consider the following six healthy hacks for a busy working mom and you will soon feel much more energized and confident when it comes to balancing it all.
1. Simple Soul Food
Eating well is a vital part of balancing a healthy routine. If you neglect your health, every other aspect of your life is going to suffer. Make sure you prioritize simple soul food every day without fail; this authentic cuban picadillo recipe is the perfect way to nourish your body as a busy mom. Cooking healthy meals from scratch doesn’t need to be time consuming, you can make batch meals and freeze them for a later date.
2. Get Organized Ahead of Time
Don’t leave your organizational ideas until the last minute; this will definitely stress you out and bring chaos to your household. Getting organized is all about creating healthy habits that work for you, whether that’s a calming bedtime routine or an energizing morning ritual.
3. Keep Your Family Schedule Up to Date
Knowing where all of your kids need to be at any given time is so important. Keeping your family schedule up to date will save time and unnecessary stress. The most effective way to do this is to keep a calendar in your kitchen with all of their latest appointments and activities so you never forget a thing.
4. Don’t Forget Date Night
Time alone with your significant other is so important, so make sure you don’t forget date night. Even if you only manage it for once a month, you will definitely see the difference in your mood and energy levels if you make time for the person you love.
5. Manage Your Work Time
When you work from home and have children to look after, everything can seem a little overwhelming and hectic. Separate your work tasks into small, digestible chunks so that you don’t feel overwhelmed with your workload every day. Being able to prioritize will be a life saver when it comes to getting your business tasks done.
6. Be Smart With Self Care
Healthy food is a huge part of staying healthy and so it self care. If you don’t allow yourself time alone from time to time you are going to be zapped of energy pretty quickly. Schedule important appointments with yourself and make sure you stick to them!
Hopefully, these six healthy hacks will help you to maintain your energy levels as a busy working mom so that you can stay energized no matter what life throws your way.
Being a mom of two preschoolers definitely keeps you on your toes (it’ll be fun, they said). But being a mom of two preschoolers who are picky eaters with severe food allergies is, at times, brain wrecking!
My son, Jovani, is 5 years old and he is allergic to several things including
dairy (his worst allergy),
My daughter, Milan, is 3 years old and she is allergic to
peanuts (her worst allergy),
Yes, I know – that’s a lot of allergies. It’s also a lot of label reading and separate food prepping.
And trust me – if I had a dollar for every time someone said to me, “Wow! They’re allergic to everything. So, what do you feed them?!” … I’d be rich.
After doing this for the last five years with my little ones, it has gotten so much easier figuring out what they can and cannot eat. For the most part, cooking fresh is always the safest way to go.
My biggest worry is sending them out into the world with their food allergies and the people around them not helping them fast enough.
I’ve never felt so much fear and hopelessness in my life until the day I had to use the EpiPen Jr. on my son. We were packing up our house to move across the country to PCS to a new military installation and his personal cup was already packed. So, he grabbed his sister’s cup that was filled with regular cow’s milk and drank the WHOLE thing.
His skin broke into hives, his face was swelling, and he had trouble breathing. I panicked and started freaking out. My first thought was to rush to the emergency room, but we kept an EpiPen in the car and my husband told me to use it first.
We had to rush him to the emergency room immediately after; where I was told he was going into anaphylactic shock (if not treated immediately, can result to respiratory arrest, cardiac arrest and death). They gave him another shot of epinephrine and when the symptoms came back again, he had to be airlifted to the closest children’s hospital. My then 3 year old son grabbed my hand and said, “Mommy, I don’t want to die.” I cried so much that night. I wouldn’t wish that feeling on anyone.
My Tips for Raising Children With Severe Food Allergies
Educate yourself. Learn about identifying the symptoms. Learn about food alternatives. Searching the grocery isles after the first diagnosis will seem very overwhelming, but it will get easier. There are plenty of websites with great information and resources like keychains and stickers for your child with their allergies listed and printable lists of alternatives. A few websites that I visited during our journey are the Food Allergy Research & Education® (FARE) website, the Kids With Food Allergies website, and blogs like
Educate everyone who has to be around your child. Believe it or not, I have had a daycare worker give my son a full cheese stick because she thought dairy only meant milk. That was another trip to the ER and another cancelled daycare contract. Make sure everyone who babysits or cares for your children knows what your child is allergic to and alternatives to give them. Don’t assume that everyone knows or will be as careful about labels as you are.
Use allergy-friendly products. I LOVEEEE finding new brands that sell allergy-friendly products. My favorite allergy-friendly brands are Enjoy Life Foods (my kids love their cookies and chocolate bars) and Ian’s Natural Foods (they have chicken nuggets, alpha-tots, pizza, and more). We also love Van’s Foods. Gluten free, dairy free, and egg free waffles? Yes please! Although my baby girl can’t eat their waffles because of the soy, my son loves them.
Explain it to your little one. After we had that big scare and my son was air lifted to another hospital, he kept asking what did he do wrong. We had to explain to him that he accidentally drank the “bad milk” and showed him pictures of all that he’s allergic to. Now whenever he sees anyone with something that him or his sister can’t have, he’s able to say “No, thank you. We’re allergic to that.” It will be hard for them to see their friends with cupcakes and ice cream, but they’ll learn that those things aren’t safe for them eventually.
Keep hope alive. If you’re one of the lucky parents like me whose children were diagnosed with their food allergies as a baby, there is a possibility that your little one could outgrow some of their allergies. I try to get my little ones retested every year and so far, my son is no longer as allergic to wheat as he was as a baby. To be on the safe side, though, I still give him gluten free products since his sister can’t have it.
Raising children in this modern society is tough as it is, and adding the worry of your children’s severe food allergies can be scary… But it doesn’t have to be. There are plenty of parents on this journey just like us. Find an online community or local group that encourages you and shares food allergy tips. Focus on what your child CAN have rather than what they can’t have, and be the best parent you can be.